Let me tell you something right now. You shouldn’t get married.
That’s not to say that you shouldn’t seek out love. You should. Humans are social creatures, and we love having contact with one another.
When it comes to marriage, there are too many risks involved. You might end up getting your spouse’s debt, be forced to pay alimony, or lose the right to see your kids if a divorce happens.
Although the tax benefits of marriage are superior, they don’t make up for everything you need to manage. You can do just as well with a domestic partnership, an informal arrangement, or a prenup that doesn’t involve getting hitched.
Does Marriage Mean the End of Your Freedom?
I don’t think it is fair to say that marriage is the end of your freedom. I can say that with confidence going into the 20th anniversary with my wife in 2022.
When you first enter marriage, you may first experience a kind of culture shock. After you spend so long with another person, you discover that life goes through different phases. The people you were when you first got together are no longer where you are today.
It’s almost like a complete life cycle. You’ll start in one place, evolve to another, say your vows, change again, and eventually end up where you first started.
That’s assuming you can stand to be with each other for that long. We have this quaint notion of finding true love with a soulmate. How many times have you heard the advice about getting married to your best friend?
Yeah – don’t do that. My best friend still watches The X-Files for three hours each night. I’d go insane if that were the only thing on my TV!
It’s okay to fall in love. You can start a family. All of the things that you enjoy in life can be yours without the marriage license.
It’s for the best because if things go south, you’re both on the hook for a financially devastating outcome.